Dave Nicholson

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When you tell someone with an addiction that they are harming themselves or that they need to stop, they WILL do more of it - literally because you said that to them. It is a dangerous thing to do. They will not only resent you, but harm themselves even more to counter the rejection they feel you have just done to them. In personal experience most of the time when people do say these "words of advice they think the person needs to hear". They are doing it for selfish reasons and don't actually wish to help. I know how strange this sounds but the root of their advice it mostly a need to be looked up to by the person or a need to control everything around them. The latter is more often the case. For example, if you tell a food addict "you should not eat that" they will eat more of it than normal because you said not to. If a person is a drunk, they will get extra drunk that night because of your advice. You can NOT stop them from doing what they are d...