17 Self Examination Questions

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1. How would you like to feel every single day? Emotionally, and physically.

Emotionally, I’d like to be happy all the time. Physically, I’d like to be able to move the way I could when I was in my 20’s and I’d like to be pain free.

2. What makes you happy?

My friends. Animals. Pusheen the cat. Movies. Music. And much more.

3. What are you most fearful of?

This is a toss-up between not having enough money to live and getting cancer. Either way I would not want to exist in that situation.

4. What is your idea of peace?

A warm summer day with a light breeze and I’m by the lake alone and drinking beer and just listening to the sound of the wind and the waves hitting the shore.

5. What was your childhood dream? How did that dream shape you?

I wanted to be like my dad in every way. However, by the late teens the dream was gone and replaced with another. As I aged, my dream changed many times. None of them ended up happening. My moving toward the temporary dream altered how I would think and act. This all added up to me being who I am today.

6. What emotions do you tend to deny or ignore? Why?

Anger. I have no use for it. It is only destructive to the self. It does nothing to better you or help you.

7. What triggers you most? Why?

People who hurt children. I want them to be gone from my world completely. We need to always protect children as a society. We much give them what they need to grow into a productive adult and to be well.

8. How do you define love?

This is too much of a question to answer easily. First, what is love? It can come in many forms including that of a God, or a friend, a book, a movie, a song, food, and so on. This question is too non-descript to answer.

9. Can you give yourself the permission to release feelings and emotions that no longer serve you? Why or why not?

Sometimes yes, I can. I can forgive someone and move on easily. Other times the feelings and/or emotions will never go away. They come back with the spark of a memory, and the pain is fresh in my mind. I don’t think a person who can just never feel the loss of a loved one again is a decant person or there Is something very wrong with their brain. As long as I still have a working mind, the pain will come back, and I’ll have to grieve again and again.

10. How do you regulate your emotions? Is this method serving you, why or why not?

I honestly can’t tell you. It just happens. I must have learned the ability to calm down or release anger from my mind somehow, but it was not anything conscious that I did to learn this. It came with age and a life lived.

11. Use one word to describe your most unforgettable connection.

Intimate.

12. Who do you love the most? And why?

As a friend, I can’t pick. As in intimate love, someone that has passed on. 

13. What makes you feel confident?

In the past it was easy and I did not have to look for it, it just came. Now nothing makes me confident it seems – I lack confidence. I am unsure and not at ease most of the time.

14. What makes you feel self-conscious?

My inability to move around freely. I have limitations now physically and it is damaging to my sense of wellbeing. It makes me feel judged and it makes me feel loss. When I am out and have to walk or get up from a chair, I feel the eyes of the room on me, even if I don’t see anyone looking at me.

15. At what age did you feel most alive?

My early 20’s. I had adventures of many kinds, and I felt free and loved and supported. I felt the world was beautiful and that nothing could go wrong.

16. What's standing between you and happiness?

Money, health, lack of mobility, the way the world is right now – as in wars, starving children, and so much more evil things.

17. What are your biggest goals and dreams?

Goal, to become more mobile and fit. Dreams, most of those are long dead, but I dream of financial freedom with the ability to do good in the world, and to live a better life of comfort and creativity.