Mothers Day 2026 and I Deeply Miss My Mom

Mom on Mothers day 2007. She did not have many years to live after this and most of them where not too good for her as she had COPD then terminal cancer. This was her last good outing and I used the photo for her online memorial. She was so happy to get the rose and to have a nice meal. It was also the last time I could have afforded to give her a nice meal and a rose - after that I lost $207 in rental subsidy and it hit me hard. I miss seeing her happy and going for coffee with her so very much. I just miss her in general. It left a big hole in my life when she passed on.



When I cleaned out Moms stuff after she went into the home, I found a bunch of stuff I had made her when I was a child. I sat there and cried thinking she saved all that. It hit me hard and I felt so loved and the dread of loosing that love. I knew it was coming soon and it hurt my soul.
My cousin with Mom out for coffee with us not long before Mom went in a home. She was on oxygen full time at this point in time. I have to say that my surviving relatives including this one never spoke to me once after Mom died. They had my phone number and knew where I lived - not a word in 14 years now. The totally turned their backs on me. The moment I went on disability the attitude toward me changed and they treated me third class. When Mom passed on, they tossed me out like trash. I even sent letters to some of them and never heard back. Even when I passed on the information that my Brother had passed on from a drug overdose - not a word in reply ever.

May 19, 2004 in the Co-op cafeteria (I deeply miss that place but it closed and it and the hardware section where rented out to a gym.) A now ex-friend took the photo for me. There are rather few photos of Mom and I together. She loved going here and every Thursday we would go and have lunch or just coffee and then do her shopping. Those where the days. I miss her so much today that it's giving me pain - literally, depression triggers my Fibromyalgia. Watching Mom slowly rot away for 2 years was so hard to do. Then the vacuum left in her place - a large empty hole in my life that nothing can fill. I miss Dad, don't get me wrong, but he was almost never home and Mom and I had a deep bond. We lived together in a trailer for years and shared expenses and became extremely close. She was a true friend, not just a Mother. My heart longs for one more coffee with her, or to play cards one more time. Dear Mom, I will see you again some day. God knows how much I still love you and long for your company. You are safe in the arms of the Lord now - rest well dear Mom, rest well.


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